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How the truth can ultimately hurt a patient and their family

1/14/2014

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PictureAnna-Marie with her brother Jonjo
I’ve just finished reading the heart-breaking story of 24 year old Vickie Harvey who sadly lost her battle with Acute myeloid Leukaemia before Christmas 2013. Her family have lodged a formal complaint about the consultant haematologist at Worcester Royal Hospital, Dr Fiona Clark, and how she dealt with Miss Harvey’s and her family’s requests during and at the end of her illness I felt compelled to write my own experience down. 

My brother, Jonjo, was a similar age to Vickie when he was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia in December 2006, he was 23. He was also treated at Worcester Royal Hospital where Vickie was and was also under the care of Dr. Clark. On first being diagnosed I remember feeling quite angry and emotional when we were told that Jonjo would have to hear news of his illness and treatment without us in the room with him. I begged the consultant to allow my Dad or brother or even my over-reactive, wailing banshee (at the time) self-go in with him! I can remember it being explained that Jonjo was an adult and had the right to the privacy of being able to ask any questions he may have, alone. Reluctantly, I gave in. I know now it was the emotion of the time that caused my hysteria but do understand, and did almost straight after, that they were right. My brother watched through the crack in the blinds to gauge Jonjo’s reaction to what he was being told. There were lots of nods between Jonjo and the doctor and lip reading of the word “okay” which was reassuring to us, his family. We were never kept in the dark about anything and we were able, at any time, to ask whatever we wanted to and I always felt that time was given to us to do this, despite the severity of the situation and the need to move quickly. I can also vividly remember feeling that the doctors were very cold and almost, dare I say it, unfeeling. 

My Dad commented to me about the apparent lack of bedside manner of a couple of doctors. I have had time to reflect since then and take back my comment in light of the fact that these doctors and consultants are employed as the best in their field, as specialists in the world of haematology and blood disorders, including the awful disease that is Leukaemia. They are giving the facts of treatment on a daily basis and have to deliver the worst possible news to families and patients at times. For this to even be possible the facts are all that are required. We, as a family of a leukaemia sufferer were shocked to be told how poorly our loved one was and can empathise with the family of Vickie Harvey but it seems that they are looking for an outlet for their grief in partitioning blame to someone whose job is to give the facts, however hard they may be to take. Mr and Mrs Harvey called Dr Clark “heartless” and her manner “bulling and overbearing” which we never found her to be. The saddest, hardest to bear part of this story; the real tragedy is that this poor girl with a whole life in front of her ended up with this terrible illness in the first place and the fact that it claimed her life. This disease that discriminates against no one, young and old, rich and poor, with no possible way of preventing it is the real villain. 

My heart goes out to the family of Vickie Harvey and I sincerely hope they find comfort in the beautiful memories they have of their daughter. 

AMR

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6 Comments
Tracy Browne
1/17/2014 02:16:07 am

I think you are so right, AMR. It would be impossible for these doctors to do their job if they allowed themselves to become emotionally embroiled. I'm sure I too would feel the anger you felt. I too feel for all the families in this position.

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Anna-Marie Rooney link
1/17/2014 04:05:03 am

Thank you Tracy, that means a lot to us to hear you say x

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Eric Harvey
2/17/2014 06:38:26 am

Hello, I am Vickies father, I think you are totally wrong and unjust to say that we are looking for an outlet for our grief, We have witnesses (nurses) who will back up our story, you are missing the point here, our complaint was that Vickie asked twice in front of witnesses not to be told anything! But Dr Clark went against Vickies wish, I have now met with the Doctors at Worcester NHS and the outcome is that I have started an online petition To protect both Patients and Doctors, so may I suggest that instead of stating the wrong facts on here (you obviously didn't read the story correctly) that you do something useful and sign the petition.

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Anna-Marie Rooney link
2/18/2014 01:22:30 am

Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry you feel I misread the article. To clarify, I was referring to the part where it stated that Vickie herself asked Dr Clark if there was anything further that could be done. I'd be interested in hearing more about the petition you have started if you can offer more information on that.

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Dawn
1/21/2019 10:52:02 pm

After being a partner of a consultant for many years. I know how upsetting it is when a patient dies. They dont cry but are saddened and feel for the family. Consultants are human. They have their own family misfortunes. But they are trained not to lay their emotions on a family trying desperately to deal with their own. Its very sad for story. My heaet goes out to both families. Life deals terrible blows and all anyone can do is try and support someone going through this.

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Alan zindani
4/21/2019 12:34:20 am

Yes they told me I have got 12 months I lost weight very tied but I don't believe dr.clark and her team I have put weight on and I feel good they told me this over a month ago I think a second opinion is called for now

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